Many people believe that when you appreciate the small items in life, you are well on your way to being happy. But, what truly is happiness? Most emotions are transitional – meaning you are never in one emotional state for long periods. People who are considered upbeat will have moments of sadness or depression – no one is in a positive emotional state forever, and that’s normal. Even depressed people are not depressed all the time. They have moments of happiness, too.
Think about a major life event such as a war. When two countries are fighting, both sides lose lives. The situation is bloody, and it can last for several years. But, when the war is over, the countries are euphoric. There will be no more bloodshed because of the war, and people can return to their homes.
However, there is truly nothing that has changed in the world except that the war has ended. In other words, the sun still sets each day. People still have to manage their everyday lives with all of the ups and downs. The euphoria from the war ending doesn’t last long. Months later, the war is still over, but the euphoria has died down, and life has gotten back in the way.
The same is true in a smaller way when you have a bad illness. For instance, suppose you have a stomach bug that leaves you uncomfortable and in pain. When the bug passes, and you are better, you feel wonderful. However, you don’t feel any better than you did before you experienced the bug. Your feeling of wellness is relative to the bad feelings – that’s how emotional states work. They go from one to the other on a constant basis.
Appreciating the small things in life may lead to happiness. But, it’s likely you will be content more than you are happy. Contentment can almost be thought of as a neutral state, leaning on the side of happy. There isn’t anything wrong when you are content. But, there also isn’t anything that is making you overly happy – extreme happiness can be hard to sustain.
There may be too much pressure involved in striving for happiness when you could be striving for more easily achieved contentment – and don’t feel as if you have to be to-the-wall-working-hard all the time; that’s a recipe for burnout.
The good news? Your feelings of appreciation for the small positive aspects of your life will lead to contentment without having to worry about trying to make yourself happy all the time. The happier times will occur naturally, with less stress and pressure.
If you spend most of your life content, you are doing something – or a whole lot of somethings – right. Think about all the people you love and the postive aspects of the life you currently have, such as your health and a good job, etc. Think about the positive aspects of life you’ve planned and are working toward.
If you try to imagine life without them, you will truly appreciate your contentment. That thought may even make you happy for a short period, as you continue to create and maintain your DivaStyle Life.