Think back to a time when someone inspired you – it could be a conference you attended or viewed online. You could’ve read a profile of someone you admired. Whatever the case, the motivation of others can strengthen how you see yourself.
You’ve probably read books about famous people who you’ve admired. These show you what those people had to go through to become successful. They write about the pain they endured, the challenges they faced, and how they achieved their goals. Sometimes, the stories will shock you – it’s hard to believe that these famous people – with all their resources – ever had to deal with adverse situations.
The internet gives us plenty of opportunities to view stories of high-profile people. Search YouTube, and you will find hundreds (if not thousands) of videos of people describing their experiences. There are probably books covering the same subject, but videos may have more impact if you’re more visually oriented. There’s usually a lot more detail in a book rather than in a video, so you should take advantage of both.
Sometimes, you’ll be lucky enough to meet the people who you admire. You can meet people at conferences and seminars, and it’s great to talk to these people and ask them questions. Most people in this position will gladly accept questions – it’s part of the process. Of course you want to be respectful of their time and not hog the question and answer session.
It’s great to have others who help motivate you. But if you place them too high on a pedestal, you may find it difficult to motivate yourself…you’ll start to believe they have an innate ability that you don’t possess, and that’s counterproductive. You need to realize they all started the same as you. Some may have had initial advantages, but even people with those advantages don’t always perform successfully with them. Most people – the vast majority of people – still need to work hard to attain their goals.
Another issue? Spending too much time listening or reading about people who motivate you, and not enough time taking action. At some point, you must take appropriate action to get going with your own goals. It is worthwhile to feed off the motivation of others, but you need to do more than going to seminars or reading books. None of that matters unless you put in the effort yourself. Once that happens, others may be coming to you one day saying how you helped motivate them.