Do you try to avoid failure? Most people do, and it makes sense, when you think about it. Failing is NOT fun! It would be great if we could just leap over the discomfort of failure and land right in front of success – the way WE want to define it – but it just doesn’t work that way. But don’t lose heart – there are tools you can use to help you believe in yourself, and find the success you’re striving for – you can achieve the success you deserve! One of the best tools to help you? Failure itself.
When you fail, you can use the experience to figure out what went wrong. You can evaluate the original steps you took and look for the point of failure, then choose alternative steps based on that information.
You absolutely MUST be honest, however, in your assessment of why the failure happened. If you default to blaming everyone else for your failures, this will mask the true reasons, and you’ll never move on. Truthfully, it’s easier to blame others rather than admit our own mistakes, but you aren’t doing yourself any favors by doing this.
Recognizing your failure is important to your personal growth, but don’t become too hard on yourself – being overly critical isn’t the answer either. If you are putting yourself down because you failed, this won’t help your cause or your motivation. You DO need to recognize that you failed, but knowing that it will happen on occasion gives you the opportunity to decide to embrace it. Once you’ve crossed that important hurdle, you can take a step back and figure out how to continue.
You can also get inspiration from the failure of others. People write about their trials and tribulations in books, and some people record videos about their experiences to help others. Their experiences can help by giving you tips on how to avoid their mistakes. Understanding this can help you succeed at a much faster rate than if you make the same mistakes. Using other people’s’ experiences to your advantage is crucial. If you don’t currently do this already, it’s time to start.
Drawing from the experiences of others also shows you that you aren’t alone. If you read about how a successful person overcame obstacles, you can feel better about your chances to overcome the mistakes you make. In other words, if they achieved success despite their mistakes, so can you. That is another powerful benefit of using failure to your advantage.
Is there ever a time when you should try to avoid failure? Certainly – if you’re repeating the same mistakes over and over, it’s time to stop, breathe, and take a hard, analytical look at what you’re doing. If you can’t break that cycle or repeated failures, you may want to find a coach that can help you. Sometimes, that extra push from a professional who has “been there, done that,” or who has helped others break free of their cycle of repeated failures can be what you need to move forward to a new, successful cycle.