Believe in Yourself Challenge Day 8: Getting Help from a Mentor

You are going to get beaten by your circumstances at certain points in your life. Between negativity and competitiveness, life can be a brutal environment that makes it challenging for anyone to thrive. If you are getting down-hearted because nothing seems to be working for you, it may be time to connect with a mentor.

A mentor can view your life and your circumstances from an outsider’s perspective – arguably, a more objective one. They can help advise you on what changes to make, while continuing to do whats’ working. Their advice and counsel can be hard pills to swallow, but a good mentor will be sensitive to how he or she presents their critique and suggestions for correction.

Your mentor can also give you objective encouragement that helps you to believe in yourself once again. He or she can reignite the spark that has gone out because of the challenges you’ve faced – and once you have that “lion-heart” back, there will be no stopping you. That’s why your next move toward success may be to consider a mentor.

You want to be very selective in your potential mentor candidates. Make sure you ask lots of questions, and try to find people who have experience with the mentors you’re considering. Get the terms of the mentoring agreement in writing, and make sure you include accountability – both for yourself, and for the mentor you choose.

It’s great to have a mentor who agrees to give you advice, but if you don’t understand it and act on it, you’re wasting your time and money, as well as the time and effort of your mentor. Be aware that the help he or she provides is very likely to put you outside your comfort zone. You’ll be asked to perform tasks that you may never have imagined you’d be doing. You’ll find this both scary and exciting, and as long as you don’t give up, you’ll be surprised at what you can accomplish.

If you’re not getting the results that you and your mentor agreed upon, and what the mentor claimed they could help you achieve, this is where holding him or her accountable comes into play. If you are meeting your end of the deal and accomplishing required tasks, you should be critical when you aren’t making progress. Your agreement should come with milestones, and if you are paying your mentor, you should deliver payment based on those milestones. If you pay your mentor’s entire fee upfront, you lose the accountability factor. A good mentor should be willing to accept payment based on agreed-upon milestones. They’ll have confidence in their ability to deliver, and not be offended or put off by the accountability.

You can use a mentor for more than guiding your career – you can have a personal mentor as well. Life coaching continues to grow as a professional field, and while some people struggle with believing it’s validity, many other will swear they couldn’t have made progress without it.