Fear of Failure or Fear of Success – What’s Holding YOU Back?

By Dianne M. Daniels | Achievement

Did you know that more people are afraid to succeed than they are to fail? It might seem counter-intuitive, but it’s true…and there’s one big reason for this that may surprise you when you learn about it – read on to find out what it is…

When average, everyday people fail, they can find all kinds of reasons or excuses or other factors as to why they failed. Other people will even chime in with their own reasons as to why an individual failed. They’ll say things like, “It just wasn’t meant to be.” Another common one is, “Your heart wasn’t in it.”

When people – you and I, for instance – succeed, however, there are no excuses. The steps you took, worked. Perhaps it was a fluke that it worked – or at least that’s what some detractors will say – but what about when it happens again? Then, there’s no way out of it. Failure has an escape plan; success does not.

The reason most people are afraid of success is it forces them out of their comfort zone. They now have to solidify their game plan and continue walking along the successful path. They can no longer tell people “It can’t be done” because they did it. It’s now a proven fact.

How do you overcome that fear of success? You plow through it – never looking back, because you want the result more than you want to remain in your comfort zone. If you ever saw the movie Caddyshack, Ty tells Danny to “be the ball.” Although a comical reference, it means Danny needs to be one with the ball to play better golf. You need to be one with your business concept, project or task, so to speak.

If you feel as though you can’t repeat the single success you had, think about what it took to get there in the first place. If you can map out the steps you took, the timeframe they occurred in, and the factors you had to analyze and improve upon, this can serve as your road map to repeat your success. If you find it difficult to do this, include some of the people in your life who are your “cheerleaders,” but who don’t know a lot about the project. Describing the steps you took to someone who knows little about the subject matter forces you to break it down into simpler terms. That breakdown can help you see the actions you took that might have been “automatic” to you with your experience and knowledge, but without them, the chances of success are much smaller.

Another way to repeat your success is to realign your belief system. Convince yourself that you are capable of succeeding, using your success as proof of your capability, and use that as the basis for moving forward. Think about all the benefits that are associated with your recent success. Also, consider what your life would be like without this accomplishment and ask which outcome you like better.

For many, proving something can be done is enough for them and they move on. If you want to accomplish something, you need to push past this feeling. While it may be true that the thrill of proving it to yourself is gone, there is still more to do to keep the momentum going. Trying to generate the power to get started again is tougher than if you had just kept going. Don’t forget to celebrate your accomplishment, then document your success and start working to repeat the process.

Proving it can be done is not the same as doing it. The act of physically completing the task should be very satisfying to you. Constantly chasing new thrills and project and never fully accomplishing any one thing completely is NOT the way to build capacity, nor is it the way to adopt the achiever’s mindset – knowing you CAN and HAVE done it is invaluable to creating and manifesting your DivaStyle life.

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