No one is immune to self-doubt. Developing a toolkit to overcome self-doubt and increase your level of self-confidence isn’t an overnight decision, but the good news is that it CAN be learned, strengthened, and implemented in your life.
In this post, I want to offer you some ideas, tips, and advice that will help you analyze the causes of self-doubt and create a game plan to take action and succeed by Ignoring Doubters.
Check out the sections below, listen to the audios and look for the Tips Report on Ignoring Doubters in Section 3.
Section 1: Conquering Self-Doubt and Becoming More Confident
Everyone has times in their life when they feel inadequate and incompetent, but some of us feel that way more often than others. Many people are so busy putting themselves down they fail to thrive in life. They stop trying to learn and better themselves. They become discouraged and depressed. Do you feel like you may be one of these people?
Maybe your self-doubt stems from some negative experiences early in your life. For example, if people made fun of you when you were a child, you might doubt your abilities even today.
* Traumatic experiences can cause a vicious cycle of self-doubt in your mind.
Parents, teachers, and other children can sometimes unwittingly say things that have a powerful impact on us for better, or for worse. So, how do you turn things around and stop that nagging voice in your head that says you’ll never be good enough?
Here are some tactics to help you erase that doubt and become more confident:
Let Go of Negative Criticism of Yourself
This applies to both past and present. Don’t let a jerk of a boss ruin your day by simply adding his voice to the tape player in your head. Realize that he may be taking his anger out on someone else because of his own inadequacies. People’s negative attitudes speak volumes about them, not about you!
* Stifle your tendency to criticize yourself. By agreeing with those who criticize you, you’re giving them all the power.
* Pay no attention to that negative, pessimistic voice in your head that’s saying you’re going to fail. If you stop listening, it will get quieter and eventually disappear.
* Reclaim your life by believing that you CAN succeed.
* Surround yourself with supportive people who believe in you, and who aren’t afraid to tell you so.
Prepare Yourself and Do Your Best
It’s not enough just to think positively; you have to actively pursue success as well. Visualizing your end goal can help you make the right choices, but no one can do the work except you. One way to overcome self-doubt is to write down your positive qualities.
* Make a list of at least 5 good things about yourself. Every day when you wake up, read the list. Reading it out loud will also help you to believe the items you’ve listed.
The positive thinking will help prepare your mind to succeed, but there are other ways you can help yourself achieve your goals as well:
* Set reasonable and ambitious goals. Decide what you want to do within a set amount of time. Keep your goals realistically ambitious so you can meet them, but you’ve got to put in some effort. If you set unrealistic goals that you can’t meet, you’ll quickly become discouraged. Start out small and get bigger with your dreams.
* Get busy. Inactive people easily become depressed. To avoid this unpleasant situation, immerse yourself in achieving your goals. Hard work will always pay off in the end.
* Revel in your success. Self-doubters tend to think they don’t deserve to succeed. But you do! You deserve a reward for conquering your self-doubt and becoming more confident. You deserve to be honored for your hard work and perseverance. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Just remember you can’t reach the top of a mountain in one giant leap; it takes many steps along the way to reach the peak in due time. The same is true of success and achieving your goals.
Taking baby steps and attaining many small successes will bring you the confidence to reach your dreams. In the meantime, sit back and enjoy the journey to becoming the self-assured person you know you can be. It’s a wild ride, but it’s well worth it in the end.
Check out this additional audio segment about what life might be like if we had no obstacles:
Section 2: Overcoming Obstacles by Removing Self-Doubt
People doubt themselves and their abilities. When it becomes a chronic situation, it can hold people back from getting what they want. Confidence will break through the barriers caused by obstacles.
You need to recognize when an obstacle is holding you back. Sometimes, people make excuses for their situations and pretend like they don’t exist. For instance, you could be faced with a family member who has a substance abuse problem. It’s difficult to approach the person and people ignore that a problem exists. They just keep pretending as if the person does not have a problem with the hope that the situation will resolve itself.
However, the person may be crying out for help and is looking for someone who has the courage to stand up to their addiction. If you are in that position, you may want to find ways to find that strength. The addict may resist you and may do so for some time. But, if they know you care and you keep at it to confront the situation, they do hear it deep down, especially if they really are looking to get help. You do have to be aware if they don’t want help, your efforts will not amount to much, unfortunately.
Self-doubt can also cripple you when others don’t have confidence in you. For instance, if your manager has reasons to doubt your abilities, he is constantly going to be harping on at you about your work. This may cause you to doubt yourself and the situation will continue in a nasty loop. In such cases, you need to find out why he feels this way and try to work with him to help figure out what you can do to alleviate the situation. Just having this meeting can show your manager you have confidence which could be the catalyst to turn around the situation.
Confidence is going to be your greatest ally when trying to overcome self-doubt. This isn’t easy for everyone to come to grips with and it does take courage. But, once you gain confidence, you will find there is no stopping you. Dealing with most obstacles will become easier for you which will lead to you succeeding more often. Many people find that after they get past a certain situation, they wondered why it took them as long as it did. It doesn’t matter, though. As long as you eventually gain that confidence, you can make happen whatever you need to.
Check out this audio segment on Using Obstacles as Opportunities:
It can be difficult to ignore the “haters” and the “doubters” in our lives – especially when we KNOW them. It would be fantastic if our friends, family members, co-workers, and loved ones were always in our corner, cheering us on.
Unfortunately, that’s not always the case. In the Tips Report below, you’ll find 9 immediately applicable and easy-to-implement tips for making the efforts of those with opinions about you and your efforts less effective. I shared some of these tips during the recent 15/15 FB Live Challenge at my Facebook page – https://facebook.com/DivaStyleAcademy – and got such a wonderful response that I decided to share the rest of the tips and some additional content here on my blog.
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