The best possible scenario we could wish for is a life jam-packed with happiness, smiling, laughing and love, right?
Despite searching for that, it’s virtually guaranteed that you’ll also experience some negative emotions because they exist and are pretty much unstoppable. Worry is one negative feeling that people frequently encounter, and that’s because the future is impossible to predict.
Believe it or not, some people fall into the trap of accepting worry as a beneficial thing. Let me be clear – it’s NOT – and I’m here to expose the superstitions and empower you to reduce your worrying.
Arguably, this could genuinely be true. For instance, worrying when your child ventures off on their own could be the result of your caring deeply for them. But, if you flip that around, people might argue that they worry non-stop because if they don’t, it means they don’t care. Truthfully, worrying needlessly on a frequent basis over nothing does not fall into the bracket of caring, it’s just a hindrance and a source of stress. My husband often gently chided me for baseless worry about our children – it was making ME crazy, and making the children afraid to try new things – definitely NOT what I was going for!
Trying to rack your brain to determine every possible thing that could go wrong in every single situation will exhaust you. Plus, it won’t help, because you’ll never be able to predict every potential pitfall. So instead of worrying about how to avoid bad surprises, become a stronger, more prepared and more capable person with a positive attitude, so you can handle bad experiences if they ever do arise.
So many people tell themselves they worry to keep themselves safe, because if they don’t worry it opens up the door for bad things to happen. For example, you may feel that if you don’t consistently worry about your partner’s whereabouts, they’ll instantly be unfaithful. But, by doing that, you’ll cause friction, because the distrust doesn’t just go away – its buried in your subconscious, and it may make an appearance when you least expect it. This kind of worry can pre-occupy your heart and your mind, distracting you, when you could be focusing on being happy with your partner and spending time with them.
There’s a common assumption that regularly overthinking and worrying about something will help you discover a solution to whatever the potential trouble is. But, in fact, the majority of the time there’s no problem even to solve. It hasn’t happened yet! If there is a challenge, endlessly worrying about it will only cloud your thinking and your judgment and prevent you from finding a workable solution.
Bizarrely, some people believe that worrying empowers them to be proactive and avoid problems before they occur. Subsequently, they think that worrying will prevent complacency and push them to become better, stronger and more prepared. But the thing is, worrying is a negative emotion that doesn’t allow you to grow, to expand, or to think clearly. It’s far better to find motivation from other sources that don’t interfere with your thinking, cloud your judgment, or negatively affect your emotions.