Self-Compassion Series: Take Control of Your Inner Voice

By Dianne M. Daniels | attitude

Your inner voice can guide you on your journey through life. It can tell you when to eat and when to go to work. It also tells you what to think about the people you meet, and so on. But, sometimes it takes a negative stance, and that’s when we need to take notice and be careful.

That inner voice tells us the world is not safe and that we should criticize everything we encounter. It shouts for us to watch out when trouble is happening to us.

It’s the voice of experience – our own experiences. In many instances, that inner voice can be helpful and keep us out of trouble. But when it starts to get overly negative, it’s time for our emerging DivaStyle self to intervene and alter the tone of the conversation.

When you allow that inner voice to carry on in a negative manner unchecked for many years, you’ll start to accept whatever it is saying, even when the message has a negative spin on it.

What many people don’t seem to realize is that inner voice can be retrained. The more mature you are, and the longer you’ve been letting the inner voice’s negative messages go unchecked, the more retraining it may need, but, it is possible. And, you can – with consistency and focus – practically eliminate the negative thoughts that it keeps generating.

You can’t blame your inner voice too much for this negativity. After all, it is looking out for your wellbeing. It’s using what you’ve learned over the years as the basis for its stance, and let’s face it, some of those past experiences haven’t been as rosy as we would have liked. Bad experiences notch another negative belief for the inner voice to use whenever it sees the need.

If you force your inner voice to take an about face toward a more positive path, it’ll initially fight you on it. You will literally be fighting yourself to walk down a positive path mentally and emotinally. This is to be expected as that inner voice has years of experience and the negative thought habit under its belt.

It’s also the reason why most people give up too easily. That inner voice – and the negative habit – is strong and it will keep reverting to what’s familiar over the new and different. The more changes you try to make toward a positive path as you travel your DivaStyle journey, the more resistance you will likely face.

This inner voice is often the reason why we don’t have strong self-compassion for ourselves. It tells us way too often that we need to be hard on ourselves and that we need to do better. Part of that message is good. We all can try to do better in life.

But, when those messages start to overtake and crowd out the belief that we are a good person inside, it’s time for us to actively and firmly step up to the plate and take control of our inner voices.

It’s time to reprogram that inner voice to reinforce the positive message that you are Dynamic, Intriguing, Vivacious and Authentic – that you are the best of what being a Diva stands for. You can change the soundtrack and the foundation of your inner voice. You are in charge – now go out and live your DIvaStyle life, and retrain that inner voice, starting today!

Start by using one of the Affirmations you’ll find below this post – repeat the affirmation of your choice out loud, starting at the beginning of your day, then several times throughout the day, then again at night before you head to bed. Remember the principle that it takes 21 to 28 days to create a new habit, and use that time to help retrain your inner voice.

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