Self-Compassion Series: What’s Wrong with Imperfection Anyway?

By Dianne M. Daniels | attitude

Imagine if we were all perfect. We would do the right things all the time. We would all be rich or at least have what we need. We would all look the same. We would all know how to play the piano or be great at baseball. We would all excel at the same subjects in school. While it sounds like it would be great if it were true, how boring would life be if this were the case?

Our imperfections make us and our lives interesting. It makes us strive for bigger, better goals and gives us a reason to live. We stay curious because we are not perfect  continually seeking knowledge and trying to discover new and interesting facets of life.

Imperfection does have a dark side. There are people who commit crimes and others who we deem to be strange and try to avoid. Greed is another aspect of the dark side that makes people do all kinds of stupid things. We go to war for money and power. This all could be where the phrase, take the good with the bad, comes from.

For most people, their imperfections are well within what would be considered as normal. Most people are not serial killers, thieves or scammers, despite what some pundits in the media would have you believe. This type of news sells quite well for them, after all, and they are all about their bottom line.

If perfection was possible, another downside is that we would live forever. While some may think this is positive, having access to a diverse, and a constantly updating set of new people brings in fresh ideas. Perfect people wouldn’t need new ideas. Again, this would get quite boring.

The takeaway here is learning to accept and celebrate who you are, right where you are, and use this to have self-compassion. You are not perfect, I am not perfect, and neither is anyone else. Always keep that in mind the next time you start to beat yourself up for something. View your imperfection as something that makes you unique. How cool is that?

Give others a break, too. Accept that they are not perfect just as you are not perfect. If they make a mistake, chalk it up to the human experience. Hopefully, they’ll learn from that mistake and try to make sure it doesn’t happen again. Encourage them not to beat themselves up about it.

Let them in on the imperfection club. You’ll see all your friends there as well as your family. You’ll also see your enemies there, but that’s what happens in an imperfect world.

We make our imperfect world better when we learn to live our Dynamic, Intriguing, Vivacious and Authentic lives just as we are – and know that if we want to change some aspect of our imperfection, we have the power to do it. Embrace your imperfections – they make you unique and irreplaceable!

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